Palpate. Part I

Palpate ~ (verb) to examine by touch

This is one of my new favorite words.
Yet, it’s incredibly under-used.  You might hear “palpate” in a doctor’s office or perhaps, a yoga class.
And even then, it’s not common.

Palpate your pelvis. What is it doing?
Wait, do you know where your pelvis is?

Palpate your shoulder.
Where is it in space?  Do you feel any tension?

ahhhh…you had me at palpate….

It’s soooo useful.  We often think we’re doing one thing, and yet our body is doing something else entirely (I love video for this very reason).

Feel your way in.

Physically touch your body.  Your life.  Your movement.
That tightness in your chest – it might be on the inside, but what does it do physically?   How does it affect your movemeant?  What does it feel like?

Palpate.  Feel your way in.

How do you stand?

You stand every day at some point.  Have you ever considered how you do it?  Next time you’re standing around, notice.

Where are you on your feet?
Do you clench your toes, your quads or tighten your calves?
Do you shift your weight to one side?  Jut out your hip?
Do you slump in some way?  Jut out your chest?
Tighten up the shoulders?

When you’re not paying attention – when you’re doing something habitual (washing dishes, making tea, standing at a counter) – stop, and notice.

How do you stand?

Which foot do you favor?
Does the other foot even touch the floor?
And if it does, can you feel the ground or is it just lightly grazing the earth?

How you stand affects how you move – both physically and energetically – through this life. 
How you stand grounds you into now.

Can you feel the earth with both feet?

I wasn’t there.

The other day, upon arriving home, I found my daughter lying on the carpet, clutching her leg.  Crying as if she’d been stabbed.

“What’s wrong, baby?”

She pulled up her pant leg to show the scratch.

“Holy Moses, What happened???”

To which she replied (with a disgusted look):  “I don’t know. I wasn’t there.”


Now I know better than to argue with a six  year old, so I hugged her, kissed the wound and off she went.  But it got me thinking, how often am I not there when my body is clearly present (I mean, it was her leg right???)

How often each day are you not truly present?

Someone says hello, and you respond with “good morning!” –  yet it’s 3pm.
A stranger asks where the bus stop is, and you respond “good, how are you?”
There’s a random bruise on your shin, and you’ve got no idea.

For the most past, we live either several steps ahead, or a few steps behind.  I’m, in the several steps ahead category….

Today, do your best of fully BE here.  Right now.

What Are You Saying Yes To?

Yes ~ (verb) to give an affirmative reply to; give assent or approval to.

I recently listened to the book, “The Year of Yes”, by Shonda Rhimes.  To be honest, I didn’t really want to read it.  I figure that I say yes quite a bit, and don’t need any more.  BUT, I wanted to see what all of the hype was about, and I’m glad I did.  First off, she’s hilarious – I love it when the author actually reads for their audio book.  And secondly, it was really good.  You see, she not only says yes, but examines, and gets underneath, what she’s saying yes to.

It’s one thing to say yes to invitations to speak, or to parties, or a date.  It’s another entirely to examine your habits – your life – and determine what you’re saying yes to.  It’s got me thinking about my “yes”.  What am I saying yes to???

In the book, one example that sticks out, is that she discovered she was saying yes to being fat.  Which is all well and good if you’re happy with that.  But if you are happy with it, own it.  No more complaining , or self deprecation.  Buy the expandable seatbelt for the plane and OWN it.  Or, if that doesn’t work, say Yes to being healthy and begin to make change.  It’s not going to be easy.  You’re likely not going to love every step of the way, but in the end, it feels better and will be worth it.

The whole idea being: do less of what’s good for you, and more of what feels good.
This is a motto I can totally get behind.

And the yes doesn’t have to be huge.  Start small.
If you say yes to happy hour, you’re saying no to your trip to the gym or that evening run around the lake.  Saying yes to sleeping in, could mean skipping meditation and the morning walk with your dog.  It might mean rushing through your morning, rather than ease in getting to work.  And none of this is bad – but know what you’re saying yes to.
You have the choice.

With that in mind, what will you say yes to today?