Believe.

This time of year, ask most 5 year olds (that celebrate Christmas) about Santa and their faces light up.
Chatter of reindeer, chimneys and a big man in a red suit carrying presents bubbles up.
You can see the belief and the magic shine in their eyes.
They don’t question the logic of it. They never stop to consider that perhaps they don’t
have a chimney.
Or how will all of those reindeer fit on the roof?
Or how is a fat man in a red suit going to fit in said chimney??
Nah.
They don’t question. Details – schmetails. Santa’s coming and it’s awesome.

What if you had that kind of belief in yourself?
Not questioning the logic.
Not worrying about the details.
Undying belief.
As we move into 2011, carry some of that magical belief with you.

Talk to strangers.

Did your parents ever tell you not to talk to strangers?
(Now I’m not talking anyone scary….or anyone trying to give you candy or a ride or something – be safe in this, and trust your gut)
But seriously. Talk to strangers.
When out shopping, walking, or running – or simply going to get your lunch,
make a conscious effort to be present.
Be in the moment.
Breathe deep.
Notice your surroundings.
Be open to whatever and whomever you meet.
Smile.
Say hi.
Nod.
Send goodness.
See what you get in return.
I’m betting it feels good.
You just never know what might happen.
Go ahead, talk to a few strangers today.

Fear

How do you define it?
or more importantly, how do you react to it?
Ignore it? Pretend it’s not there?
Avoid it at all costs?
Get defensive about it?
Perhaps acknowledge it. Welcome it in, like an old friend?

Fear, as the dictionary defines it is a distressing emotion, aroused by impending danger, evil, pain, etc. whether the threat is real or imagined; the feeling or condition of being afraid.

I believe that it can more, or less than that. – Impending danger seems a bit over the top, but we’ll work with it.

At the moment, I’m 7 1/2 months pregnant, and recently got a massage.
At the end of a massage, the masseuse (a good friend) tells me that I’m fearful of having baby #2. That having two children under two – and being the primary care giver, has me a bit freaked out.
Whoa.
Really? You got all of that from my body?
A silent tear or two escaped, as I realized the truth of her statement.
As she finished massaging my head, she also mentioned that I was defensive about the fear.
Excuuuuuuse me????
Now seriously, do we have to go there??
Ok, so yes, she nailed me – to the wall.
I’m freaked out and defensive.
One child is a lot of responsibility, and while I always wanted more than one and to have them close together, at this point I’m wondering if that was such a good plan.
PLUS people keep telling me how hard it’s going to be. How there’s no way I’m going to be able to run the way I do now. How I can kiss my free time goodbye. How it’s going to be CHAOS.
Which leads me to my fall back – being defensive.
Don’t tell me what I can and can’t do. I’m superwoman and will get it all done come hell or highwater – likely, without asking for a bit of help or mentioning it to anyone.
Bottom line is this: I’m afraid of how this is all going to go down.
How am I going to maintain my sanity and keep some time to myself, along with running my business, raising a family and spending time with my husband?
Selfish? Perhaps. But true.
Up until now, I’ve swallowed that fear. Avoided it. Told myself that I can do this. This will be fine. I mean, how hard can it really be??
Now that it has been named though, I’ve been looking at it. Talking about it. Thinking about. Facing it.
And that has made it easier.
Why didn’t I start there in the first place?
Avoiding the fear allows it to manifest itself in my body. I’m glad that I was “caught” and it didn’t have to come out as a rash or a blister on my chin. The impending danger is being dismantled and prepared for, discussed and accepted.

I don’t expect that fear will leave my life any time soon. And truth be told, I don’t want it to. For me, feeling the fear means that I’m being challenged and/or pushing my boundaries. If I take the time to stop and examine that fear I usually learn something. It’s all in how you deal with it though. Push it down, avoid it and it comes out some where, some time. Face it and it may not be so fearful after all.

What’s your favorite way to deal with fear?

The time is now

Most of us, at one time or another, have had a “someday” fantasy.

When I get a raise, I’ll pay off my debt and be free.
When I lose that last 10 pounds I’ll start dating and meet the love of my life.
When I get a new job, I’ll have more time, more money and more happiness.
When I get that new bike, I’ll make exercise a priority and get in shape.
I could go on….and each of them basically boils down to “Someday, when I have/do _______, I’ll be happy.

Here’s the thing: Nothing outside of you is going to make you happy. No external circumstance is going to be the magic wand that “cures” you and makes life better. If you want your life to be different, you’re going to have to get up off of the couch and do something about it. There is no magical solution, and the time is now.

So don’t wait until you lose those last few pounds or get in shape or get that new job.
What is it that you want?
To be happier?
To be healthier?
To have more time?
What steps can you take today, to move a bit closer to whatever it is?
Go on. Get moving.
The time is now.

What do you do?

Ok, so I subscribe to IttyBiz blog and a week or so ago Naomi challenged readers to answer a scary question: “What do you do?”
As I’m in the midst of defining that, I thought I’d buck up and take that challenge.
So here goes…..

The questions:

What’s your game? What do you do?
I awaken possibility in others – whether by better running form, a training or wellness program or simply holding the space for what’s possible in life, relationships or career.

Why do you do it? Do you love it, or do you have one of those creepy knacks?
I absolutely LOVE what I do, and feel honored to be a part of the process – that and I feel like it’s something I’ve always done.

Who are your customers? What kind of people would need or want what you have to offer?
Smart men and women that want more.
They know that they can be healthier, happier, more passionate, more alive. Run smarter, faster or further. Have a better job. Be outside more. Are stuck and need a kick in the pants, or a sounding board. Those wanting more, and knowing it’s out there, somewhere.

What’s your marketing USP? Why should I buy from you instead of the other losers?
I will challenge you and we’ll have loads of fun doing it – plus, I’m pretty darn good at it!

What’s next for you? What’s the big plan?
#1 – baby #2 due in January
#2 – nutrition certification to add to the health and wellness piece
#3 – rock the world with holding the space for what’s possible

Now it will be interesting to look back a year from now and see what shifts have occurred.

Until then, what is it that you do?

100 more days

September 23rd, 2010.
As of today, there are exactly 100 more days in 2010.
Do you set goals or make resolutions each year?
If so, how are those coming along?
Have you looked at them since January 1st?
Even if you don’t set goals each year, you’ve got 100 more days to make the best of 2010.
Now is the time to decide how you’d like the remainder of the year to be.

100 more days. Make them magnificent.

Your body is always telling you something.

Can you be still long enough to pay attention?

Eating almonds or fruit as a snack leaves me feeling great, and ready for the next challenge. Eating a chocolate donut – while tasty in the moment, feels a bit like lead an hour later. And here’s the thing – I know that. I don’t need to wait the hour.

About once a year, I ignore the smaller signs of stress. I don’t mean to, but somehow I miss them. These smaller signs build on each other, and this results in a nice little welt – usually on my chin or neck. Typically it blisters, and lasts about a week. It’s attractive. (NOT)
It’s my intention this year to not get that welt. To pay closer attention to my body, and head the smaller warnings. Release that stress in some other way. Perhaps this will be a welt free year…

Our bodies are a wealth of information, if we’d only tune in long enough to listen.
Are you hungry? The clock can’t tell you, but your body knows.
Ready to quit that race? Your mind might have an opinion, but your body is really a better gauge.
Are you the right one for the job or is this job the right one for you? Do a gut check. Get your body, as well as your mind involved. It won’t steer you wrong.

What’s your body telling you?…and are you smart enough to listen?

Want to read more? Get more practice in listening to your body? – Check out this article about Body Wisdom from Chi Living

What were you thinking???

Ever have every intention of going to the gym and somehow you talk yourself out of it?
Or been working out and decided that this is just too hard, and stop?
Or have a project on your desk that you keep pushing off – procrastinating?

What were you thinking???

In each case (of the examples above or one of your own), what were you telling yourself?

If you’re running and thinking “this is soooo hard”, or “I’d really like to walk”, or “I’m totally out of shape, and this isn’t helping”….What are the odds you’ll continue to run?

If you have plans to go to the gym, and you think “I hate the gym, it’s too crowded”, or “I’ll just check my email real quick, and then go”, or “I’m too tired, I’ll rest for a minute”…..do you think you’ll ever make it to the gym?

Same thing with that project on your desk. Do you keep thinking “I’ll do it tomorrow”, or “I don’t have enough time”, or “This project sucks – it’s too hard, and I’m not sure where to start”….will it ever leave your desk?

When you start to think a negative thought, it often spirals into more and more negativity. You go from putting your running shoes on to sitting on the couch watching reruns of Dancing with the Stars and eating twinkies in no time flat.

Instead of letting you thoughts spiral out of control to negative town, I thought we’d create a list of thoughts that will help you get the job done – whatever that job might be.
I’ll start – and you add any that you can think of….

1. I am going to LOVE the way it feels when I’m done.
2. I can listen to some sweet tunes while I do this.
3. This is perfect timing.
4. This will only take ____ minutes. or, I’ll break this up into ____ minute chunks. No problem.
5. How can I make this fun?
6. I love ______ about _________. (focus on what you like about what it is you’re doing – ie, I love being outdoors while exercising)
7. I can do anything that I set my mind to.
8. How can I learn something or push myself with this?
9. Relax. I can do this.
10. I kick ass, and this is going to be a piece of cake (often done with fist pump or rock on sign for added effect).

Got the idea? Now you go.

“I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure.
I’m out of control and at times I’m hard to handle.
But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t
deserve me at my best.”
-Marilyn Monroe

Expand your reality….

Take a moment and visualize your current reality.
Work. Relationships. Health. Spiritual. Money.
Is it all as you wish it to be?
If not, and even if it is, what’s one thing you can to do to expand your currently reality?
Push the boundaries.
Take a risk (or two).
Fully engage in every activity. 100%. Full on, or not at all.
Contemplate that.